Setting Goals with Children

The beginning of a new year often brings promises of resolutions.  We often think of the new year as a new start about things we’d like to change or accomplish.  As parents, have you ever thought about encouraging children to set goals for themselves?  Children who set realistic goals and meet them can improve their self-esteem while it teaches them to manage their time, make good decisions and build their confidence.  Goals can be set any time of the year.  Have children pick a date that is meaningful for them, their birthday, valentine’s day etc.   Then guide them through these steps:

• Set goals that are specific and realistic, like “I will save my allowance money to buy a skateboard.” (Set small goals with small children)

• Have them write it down and post it where it’ll be seen everyday to remind them of what they’re working toward.

• Help them make an ‘action plan’ with a timeline and steps that can be crossed off as the goal is reached to give them a sense of accomplishment. (use a calendar, a running total of money collected and /or a bank account so they can see it growing)

• Help them ‘believe in themselves’ and stay positive about their progress by praising their efforts ahd recognizing their gains.

• Let them know that setbacks can happen, not to get discouraged, but to try again.

• Tell children you are there to support them and to ask if they need help.

• Teach children to reward themselves or set a time to celebrate even small achievements together.

Written by: Mary Ann Avey, RECE